On love and relationships
I recently had a conversation with some friends about love and relationships and how things tend to be different in Kuwait; some of the things that we discussed were whether or not they would be willing to marry someone who is not Kuwaiti, one’s nationality doesn’t matter to me but I do realize it’s a big issue here as the majority of them said they wouldn’t. The other issue that came up was weather or not someone would be willing to marry someone of a different faith. I know most of you would probably say no but think about it, what if you were madly in love with that person? Would religion be a factor ? Labels: love
posted by Chica Bonita Q8 at 2:48 AM
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Whenever someone asks me the question of weather ide marry a none kuwaity, my answer would always be im gna marry the man that makes me happy, regardless of nationality, but the government, the law, and the rules of kuwait, make it really hard for none kuwiaties, and now, looking at my family members who did marry different nationalities, i see what an impact it has, so it makes me think twice if i want to be in the same position, better yet if i want my kids to be in that position,
as for religion, no i would never marry outside my faith, no matter how in love i am.
"Things are Easier Said Than Done"
Whenever someone asks me that question (marrying someone from a different nationality, religion background, family status...)I tend to just tell them "when that day comes, then you will know the actual answer from my actions and the results of the situation" :)
if you love that person, NOTHING else matters !
different nationality isn't a big issue for me. I mean bil 3aks it will give my kids a more cultural background - which is always good :) As for marrying outside the faith - I dont understand why its ok for guys to marry outside their faith but its not for women!! That irks me a little. And if a couple can manage to find a balance then two thumbs up for them. However, personally I wouldn't marry someone outside of my faith because I want my kids to grow up adhering to the same laws and rules I did. That's my two cents anyway ;p
If he truly loves you, he will change his faith rather than put you in trouble with the law!Simple as that !
I did marry same faith/ diff sect gurl... and had many trouble back home... Now that we are here, it's like the most safe place on earth. Point is ! move to a totally new place and start new !and what a blessing it is...
If i loved a girl of different nationality or faith i would challenge the world to get her!
I think Howahkan put it right, it is much easier said than done. It is a lot easier to marry someone from a diferent nationality than someone from a different religion. Religion is touchy yes, and forget the idea of a different faith, kfaya the *6awa2ef* el islamiya like Sinna and Shee3a have problems marrying one another...
eshda3wa: most of my family have married non Kuwaitis so I understand what you said about it being hard; I guess either way you still end up paying a price ..
howahkhan: true, 'things are easier said than done'.
glamorous: I hear you :)
Cixousian Panic: 'I dont understand why its ok for guys to marry outside their faith but its not for women' exactly; thank you!
happy wolf: I'm sorry you didn't have it easy but glad things worked out
maze: I admire that :)
transparently: I agree, as for what you said about suna and shi3a I can't believe that's even an issue; ishlon eyfargon bain nafis-hum?
I feel all depends on the individuals. Their courage, love, trust, and the desire to be with each other whatever may be the consequences. It will definitely not be easy.
I know many couples who have married irrespective of their caste and creed. And all of them are happy.
hmmmmmmmm.......... religion is important i believe.. i mean i cant ever marry a jew for example.. the kids would be traumatized for life ;p
as for nationality, no i dont give a rats ass..
This is a HUGE issue that'll need lots & lots of discussion. well i believe that The problem is that in Kuwait .. Marriage is not an individual decision.. many factors affect whether u marry that person or not & also .. many ppl will decide with u (for ex. the WHOLE family!). its not easy to just say .. i'm in love & marrying that person .. full stop. I wish we could .. but we can't .. thats a fact.
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I would definetly NOT marry a man from a different religion. Why? It is because i thoroughly believe in the teachings of Islam henceforth regardless of whether I am in deeply in love with someone, it is out of the question. One thing people have to realize is that love is NOT enough to marry someone, it is important, but there are also other factors to consider. Now about marrying someone out of my nationality, highly doubt i would consider it, since part of the fun of being married to someone from kuwait is that he will relate to you interms of cultural and social rules.
sene: I agree it's a give n take and so there should be a strong desire
doctor lost: I don't care about nationality either, as for religion it’s a different matter. I used to believe that if someone really loved me they would convert for me but I began to realize that although they may convert, deep down inside they will still be themselves and have the same beliefs they've always had and so nothing really changes but I guess it’s something I might consider then again it’s easier to say than do
ling-bling: I agree it's not an easy thing and in Kuwait a lot of people intervene in our decisions; more people than we’d like but realistically they shouldn’t have a say they are not the ones that are getting married and they won’t have to live with the consequences, I guess it’s ok to get opinions of close family members but having everyone give their take won’t exactly help the situation
kitty: thank you :)
red blooded women: seems like you have already made up your mind
I am an American married to a Kuwaiti, and when he asked me to marry him (only a couple of months after we met), I had to say YES! We love each other so much until this day, 7mdella. Nationality shouldnt matter. Religion on the other hand, might be a little harder, but each case is individual. Love knows no boundaries.
nonowa: glad things worked out for both of you :)
Ofcourse religion/faith would matter !!! on the other hand the nationality is not a problem!
mitsuki: I believe religion weighs more to most compared to nationality but then again that depends on who you're asking ..
umm definately a no-no for me..another religion that is..Love doesnt last that long anyway..not always! but yeah its not the same after marriage..i know ur oin to disagree..but think about it..i mean different faith different nationality..dont mind the different nationality,but if ur a strong believer in ur faith it may a problem,otherwise it may be no problem..plus are you going to force him to live in ur country..if u live with him or whatever, what if a a conflict occurs,then what?..sure love is strong and u forget urself at the moment, but believe me "time" is the biggest enemy..oh yeah and the parent, family, etc..dont know that just my point of view..:)
orchidz: I agree with what you said about it not being easy but I guess the real question is how much are you willing to sacrifice for love?
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